Have you ever been left heartbroken by a cheating partner? It’s hard, I know. But what do you do to deal with it afterward? Many of you might listen to songs to soothe yourselves, but don’t you think listening to sad songs after such trauma would only make you more miserable? Instead, you should read some good books that would help you get over your sadness and hurting.
I’ve seen so many betrayal situations in relationships around me that it completely threw me off of relationships for a while. I always wondered why people cheat and how can one get over such a situation? It was only after reading certain books that I finally found the answers. Not just that, I even suggested them to my peers who went through such a situation, and it helped them a lot.
To begin with, people in a relationship cheat when either they aren’t satisfied with their relationship or aren’t serious about it. In such situations, people opt for betraying instead of breaking apart because they may be unsure about what they want or don’t have the guts to do so. Feeling hurt after such a difficult situation is normal, but one must try to get over it as soon as possible.
Hundreds of people will ask you to “move on,” but only a few will tell you how. Consider me one of them here, and I’m going to share with you certain mind-blowing books that will help you find your closure and get over that person who hurt you.
15 Books to Help You Cope-Up With Infidelity
Infidelity is probably one of the worst ways to hurt someone, but people will do it anyway. So, go through these books even if you’ve not been in such a situation so you can be pre-prepared.
1. Didn’t See That Coming
Full Title: Didn’t See That Coming: Putting Life Back Together When Your World Falls Apart
Author: Rachel Hollis
Publishing Date: 2020
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
If you’re a constant supporter of the author Rachel Hollis, you would know that she wants us to transform when it comes to separation situations that seem to be complicated. Transformation does seem impossible, whether it be a divorce, infidel partner, or death of a loved one, but it’s totally up to us how we come through with the pain.
This particular book of hers revolves around the topic of dealing with infidelity and a cheating partner.
2. Getting Past What You’ll Never Get Over
Full Title: Getting Past What You’ll Never Get Over: Help for Dealing with Life’s Hurts
Author: John F. Westfall
Publishing Date: 2012
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
After a breakup or separation, people often wait for when they finally get over their past relationship and partner. Still, it can’t be denied that it’s a pretty tricky road to travel, often impossible. Through the stories shared in the book, the author shows us how to get over the feelings of anger, fear, guilt, and regret; and enjoy the life that’s worth living.
3. After the Affair
Full Title: After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
Author: Janis Abrahms Spring, Michael Spring
Publishing Date: 1996
Genre: Psychology
Description:
When a person has gone through a severe crisis of infidelity, many questions pop up in their mind. Why did such a thing happen in the first place? Can love and trust, once gone, be gained back? Is it possible to forgive an infidel partner? All these questions (and some similar ones) are answered in this book by Dr. Spring, who holds the expertise of being a clinical psychologist for thirty-five years.
4. Healing from Infidelity
Full Title: Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair
Author: Michele Weiner-Davis
Publishing Date: 2017
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
Even for married couples, infidelity is an experience that shatters the relationship altogether. Marriage is such a bond that efforts must be made to save it while one can. This book helps people save marriages after one of the partners has been unfaithful, how to gain forgiveness, trust, and love back after such a situation, and how to make the marital bond more robust than before are all mentioned in the book.
5. Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life
Full Title: Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide
Author: Tracy Schorn
Publishing Date: 2016
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
A lot is focused on the cheaters, their needs, and their wants regarding infidelity, but this book doesn’t do this. It offers solid advice for the cheated-upon about the stupid things cheaters say after doing the deed, how to react to the entire situation, and the newbie mistakes the recently cheated-on people to make. Referring to them as “chumps,” the author offers advice to help the cheated-on people champion self-respect after being cheated on.
6. The Unexpected
Full Title: The Unexpected
Author: Chris Dawson
Publishing Date: 2017
Genre: Fiction
Description:
This book explains why women cheat in a relationship or a marriage while they still love their current partner. Many situations evidently show that some women, due to various factors, get seduced into an affair, therefore cheating on their partner. This obviously does not condemn their behavior, but it explains why this happens very realistically.
7. Whoa What a Cheating Therapy
Full Title: Whoa What A Cheating Therapy: Cheating is a Disease
Author: Olukemi Awe
Publishing Date: 2015
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
This book is especially for those who either suspect their partner of cheating or are afraid that they wouldn’t know what to do if they were in such a situation. You can prepare yourself for a composed and a non Impulse driven reaction. After reading this book, you might also be able to figure out if your partner is cheating on you or not.
8. The Unfaithful Spouse
Full Title: The Unfaithful Spouse
Author: Destiny O. Emmanuel
Publishing Date: 2016
Genre: Fiction
Description:
This book is neither a guide on how to get over your cheating ex nor about how to catch your cheating partner. It’s a simple fiction story about Zamadora, the unruly king, Soku the fisherman, his beautiful wife, Johnny the drunk, and his chubby wife.
All of them are brought together by fate with moral lessons about greed, uncertainties, and infidelity. This book made to this list because there’s so much to learn about adultery from the situation described in this book.
9. Coping With Marital Infidelity
Full Title: Coping with Marital Infidelity: How to Catch Your Spouse Cheating
Author: James T. Born
Publishing Date: 2005
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
This unique “how-to” book will help you (or someone you know) deal with infidelity not just practically but also spiritually. The author has experience investigating thousands of cases where the victims couldn’t afford an investigator and helped them discover the affair of their partners with the help of his training and his daily walk with God.
10. Not “Just Friends”
Full Title: Not “Just Friends”: Protect Your Relationship from Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal
Author: Jason M. Ortiz
Publishing Date: 2017
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
If you get worried after your partner says, “we’re just friends,” you might not be wrong. Most of the time these days, friendships threaten an excellent relationship and create the situation of infidelity.
People who don’t even intend to cheat are getting carried away, and before they notice, they’ve developed a deep emotional connection with their mister/mistress. One can save their relationship from such threats by catching the red flag signals mentioned in this book.
11. Surviving Infidelity
Full Title: Surviving Infidelity: Why Do People Cheat?
Author: Sarah Crawford
Publishing Date: 2014
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
When you enter the dating world, you must beware that cheating and infidelity can bump right into any time. It’s harsh, but it is there. After you’ve made peace with the fact that you’ve been cheated on, the main question arises as to “why.”
People give the most strange possible reasons for their deeds, and in this book, the author covers some very common of them and how to interpret them.
12. Living and Loving After Betrayal
Full Title: Living and Loving After Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment
Author: Steven Stosny
Publishing Date: 2013
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
This book not just focuses on infidelity but betrayal as a whole. Most people don’t even know all aspects of betrayal. Anger, deceit, abuse, and adultery are all different faces of betrayal.
In any of these cases, one leaves the relationship ultimately hurt and broken. This book will help you fix yourself, start living your life, and even find love again without letting the shadow of your past hover over you.
13. Unveiling and Conquering Adultery
Full Title: Unveiling and Conquering Adultery: Help for Christian Couples
Author: E. Guevara
Publishing Date: 2020
Genre: Religious self-help book
Description:
If you’re a staunch believer in religion and God, this book will work like a miracle for you. It will help you heal from the deep wounds of betrayal due to adultery in the most spiritual manner. The author shares her experience on how her faith in God helped her cope with her situation and overcome the pain and suffering caused by her past relationship.
14. The Betrayed Husband’s Survival Guide
Full Title: The Betrayed Husband’s Survival Guide
Author: Gary Owens
Publishing Date: 2021
Genre: Guide, Autobiography
Description:
When people talk about infidelity and adultery, all the fingers are pointed at men, but in reality, men suffer infidelity too. In this book, the author himself shares the traumatizing and heart-clenching story of how he strived through his marriage with a sex addict and got cheated on many times. He describes how he struggled through it to find his identity and recover from the most brutal battles of his life.
15. Forgiving What You Can’t Forget
Full Title: Forgiving What You Can’t Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again
Author: Lysa TerKeurst
Publishing Date: 2020
Genre: Self-help book
Description:
If you’re a victim of infidelity or any other type of betrayal by anyone, it’s not your fault, yet you’re the one suffering for someone else’s actions which is not what you deserve. Anger and resentment only affect you, not the person in front.
This book will help you forgive and get over people who’ve hurt you and aren’t willing to make things right. To move on with your life, you must learn to forgive and let go, and how to do that will be taught to you by this amazingly written book.
Conclusion
Cheating, betrayal, and infidelity are the hardest things to cope with within a relationship. If you’ve been a victim, I hope that these books will help you compose yourself and help you live a more fulfilling life for yourself. If you’ve not been in such a situation, I’m sure you’ll be more mentally prepared in case (god forbid) you have to deal with something similar in the future.
Also, I think I might have something more for you to explore:
